Do you have any polls about that, and do they specifically target the favorable military recruit demographics? As in the military shouldn't care what middle aged women think, they aren't going to join the military in any worthwhile amount anyway.
No I don't have any specific polls, because these are not the sorts of polls the US media or establishment want to conduct.
Doing polls about why people don't want to join the military might reveal things that DC and the Pentagon don't want to have to face up to.
What I do have is a lot of experience in Discords and the like where people share screencaps of recruiter attempts to pull people in, and the hilarious negative responses they get most of the time. Plus personal experience with several different recruitment attempts over the years.
A lot of the problems come from above the military, including the ideological ones you are complaining about, and it's not like this kind of guiltmongering ever made an organization sound cool and make people want to join, if you consider the fates of all the SJW infiltrated organizations made to wallow in their historical guilt real and imagined, so your solution sounds more like a way to make the problem worse if anything.
Nevermind, as i said, the decisions you complain about were made in the White House, not Pentagon. The Pentagon is obliged to follow orders.
Thinking about it, there is surprisingly little Pentagon can do about its recruiting crisis by itself as long as the White House keeps pushing it in stupid directions.
The Pentagon could easily fix some of these problems if they were willing to call out the problems that have been dumped on them by foolish White House's and by 'allies' who wanted to bleed the US of resources while testing how far NATO Art 5 would go (France and what happened in Veitnam).
Instead they still want to pretend Vietnam and Iraq were justified, instead of wasteful farces, and want to keep pretending the military leadership aren't also politicians, and that the US military is effectively it's own political branch and party all in one.
Also, 'sounding cool' isn't going to help recruiting numbers anymore, because anyone with an internet connection can do some digging to see through the recruiter PR. And even if they do get some people to join, retention numbers are also shit because fewer and fewer people who join as young, naive fools want to stay in the military one second longer than their contract makes them.
One of my own grandfathers was a B-25 crew chief/trainer in WW2, who was offered an appointment to West Point after his term of service, and he turned it down, twice, because 'he was tired of taking orders from people dumber than him'. He left the service after literally counting down the days, hours, and minutes he was in the military, and was willing to piss off his own father by turning down the West Point appointment to go back to college for an Electrical Engineering degree.
The US military's culture and leadership has not gotten any smarter since then, and now the world can see a lot more of the bullshit recruiters try to hide about military service, regardless of who's in the White House.
Owning up to the military's fuck ups, and the many wasted lives since WW2, would help rebuild trust in the US military as an institution. Without trust in the institution, not many people are going to feel inclined to join up, and if the leadership/brass don't want to do what is necessary to rebuild trust, then they cannot blame the populace for not seeing military service as a worthwhile career/life choice.