It's very complicated. She created her account before she died. No one aside from my mother is supposed to know the location of her unmarked grave.
I don't. One of my sisters does and she ain't saying much of anything about it beyond "it's in Minnesota" and "it's according to her wishes".
Our cousin wanted to be forgotten and unremembered.
Everybody would get that,after some time.Even kings of old times are almost all forgotten now.