mrttao
Well-known member
Congrats.
Now this is an example of someone beating the odds.
20 years of marriage is good.
Congrats on winning the lottery. I am very happy for you.
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Now this is an example of someone beating the odds.
20 years of marriage is good.
Congrats on winning the lottery. I am very happy for you.
LordsFire
Internet Wizard
Don't say crap like that.
He chose to be a mature man. He had discernment in the character of the woman he chose. His wife chose to be a mature woman.
Relationships that last, last because of maturity and hard work.
Not luck.
Pretending it's luck does people like him a disservice.
I'm guessing your marriage has had its up and downs but you and your wife worked hard to keep it together?
It has some luck, mainly on finding the person, but after that it's hard work.
It is understanding each other, working with them, being there for them. Knowing limits
LordsFire
Internet Wizard
Saying there is some luck can be fair. You don't get to control who you meet and when, though different life choices certainly change the number of potential spouses you'll meet.
It's certainly not so far as 'winning the lottery' though, which is pure luck.
Thanks. Though I wouldn't consider what we have lottery luck. I consider what I have a blessing.
It's also a blessing that I see repeated all around me for others.
I appreciate the defense, but from @mrttao POV it may very well seem like luck. It sounds like he doesn't have a lot of great examples around him of what a good marriage looks like.
I have been greatly blessed with my wife and kids.
Very much so. We have both had our low points where we held each other up. We've also been able to kick the other in the ass when we've needed it to get out of a bad mental place or just some needed motivation. My wife makes me want to be a better person. As for marriage itself, it very much is not a 50/50 split; it's all in or not at all so 100/100.
It's kinda funny you put it that way because we were both in the same area when we were both in our early twenties but didn't meet then. We met a few years later. We met right when we needed to b/c I don't think we'd have liked each other at that point earlier in our lives.
mrttao
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Out of curiosity, how did you know she is the right person?
Did you test her? and if so, how?
Did you do a background check on her? (isn't this stalking?)
Also, how do you know she will still be the same kind of person 10 years from now?
people change, and corrruptors are all around us trying to seduce people into making bad choices.
Let me get back to you after i wake up as this deserves a better response than I can generate right now.
I know this is way the fuck off-topic and the jannies are probably going to move the previous couple pages into a new thread, but I'll say my piece.
Women are genuinely god damned retarded. You either find a unicorn who has a brain which developed past the age of 12, or you're stuck with a 5'5 flesh puppet with no personality, skills or notable traits other than looking cute and being the exact creature your brain has been biologically hardwired into worshipping.
Women are the sorts of retards who cannot understand the most basics of god damned ANYTHING. Go to a group of them.
"What's the average male height? Their income? Cock length?"
"Oh, tee hee, 6'1, 80k, 8 inches?"
*BUZZER INDICATES WRONG NOISE*
I live exclusively with women, and you know who hates women even more than actual misoginists? OTHER WOMEN. I get DAILY reports about how stacy did some stupid bullshit behind somebody else's back, how tracy didn't do her job properly, how lucy is on her phone too much, how they all lack any real hobbies, personalities and are generally unpleasant. And this is coming from OTHER WOMEN, not me.
Are there guys out there who found kickass wives and are going to live the rest of their lives in bliss? Hell yeah there is! Good for them! They won the proverbial female-lottery!
For those without a gambler's mindset however, it just comes across as too much of a gamble. If the laws of most Western countries weren't hilariously skewed towards women I reckon men would take way larger risks and we'd be much better off as a society. Instead you get "Hehe, he was cute but the way how he left the toilet seat up gave me the ICK, so I'm going to divorce him after I have a kid with him! I need that child support money to get those new shoes I've been looking at!" nonsense.
Also, about 1/5-1/3 kids are born to an unknown biological father, try looking at a woman with that figure on your mind and keep a straight face. Jesus christ.
Can't deny I love women, I very much appreciate the handful I respect IRL, but god damn you could cull 99% of them and the general response would be "This is at least a slight improvement"
Women are genuinely god damned retarded. You either find a unicorn who has a brain which developed past the age of 12, or you're stuck with a 5'5 flesh puppet with no personality, skills or notable traits other than looking cute and being the exact creature your brain has been biologically hardwired into worshipping.
Women are the sorts of retards who cannot understand the most basics of god damned ANYTHING. Go to a group of them.
"What's the average male height? Their income? Cock length?"
"Oh, tee hee, 6'1, 80k, 8 inches?"
*BUZZER INDICATES WRONG NOISE*
I live exclusively with women, and you know who hates women even more than actual misoginists? OTHER WOMEN. I get DAILY reports about how stacy did some stupid bullshit behind somebody else's back, how tracy didn't do her job properly, how lucy is on her phone too much, how they all lack any real hobbies, personalities and are generally unpleasant. And this is coming from OTHER WOMEN, not me.
Are there guys out there who found kickass wives and are going to live the rest of their lives in bliss? Hell yeah there is! Good for them! They won the proverbial female-lottery!
For those without a gambler's mindset however, it just comes across as too much of a gamble. If the laws of most Western countries weren't hilariously skewed towards women I reckon men would take way larger risks and we'd be much better off as a society. Instead you get "Hehe, he was cute but the way how he left the toilet seat up gave me the ICK, so I'm going to divorce him after I have a kid with him! I need that child support money to get those new shoes I've been looking at!" nonsense.
Also, about 1/5-1/3 kids are born to an unknown biological father, try looking at a woman with that figure on your mind and keep a straight face. Jesus christ.
Can't deny I love women, I very much appreciate the handful I respect IRL, but god damn you could cull 99% of them and the general response would be "This is at least a slight improvement"
Yep, it is a give it all or none at all. Wife and I give 110 percent for our whole relationship
mrttao
Well-known member
I should clarify. I am not trying to diss ya'lls wives.
I genuinely want to know your skills.
You guys said it is not luck but skill.
You found a good one because you knew what to look for.
I genuinely would love to learn the secrets to success here.
Because I don't know how to fish out a good woman in the ocean of rotten spoiled evil entitled harpies.
And would absolutely love to learn the secret
I genuinely want to know your skills.
You guys said it is not luck but skill.
You found a good one because you knew what to look for.
I genuinely would love to learn the secrets to success here.
Because I don't know how to fish out a good woman in the ocean of rotten spoiled evil entitled harpies.
And would absolutely love to learn the secret
I will note that the divorce statistics are highly skewed due to people who get involved in a divorce once tend to do so multiple times, resulting in multiple marriages/divorces. Much of this is also due to how casually many modern people take marriage, jumping into it almost on a whim.
SoliFortissimi
Well-known member
Then we have very different experiences. Everyone in my social circle delays marriage for as long as they can. Some don't get married at all.
It's really not good for your finances, having to support a family. Better leave it to the people who have nothing to lose from settling down.
I like this one!
If you replace all of your cells with E-Coli, you don't have a human left.
You have E-Coli.
SoliFortissimi
Well-known member
......are you seriously comparing immigrants to bacteria?
No worries, I never felt you were dissing me.
I'll be the first to say that I'm not sure I had any skills that let me find a good woman. I think most of it was just learning by osmosis really. I got to watch my parents and my older brothers in their relationships. I was definitely able to recognize that my wife was a good prospect. In my case we were friends for a few years prior to when we started to date. At one point, we even broke up b/c we were in different cities, and she wasn't sure I was committed to her. Well, I showed her by dropping everything and moving to where she was. (Get away from me? HAH!) We were engaged about 3 months later. Lesson here really is that you don't need to be afraid to drop everything to make it work.
I highly recommend getting to know the person prior to sleeping with them. Heck, wait to sleep together till after you get married. It's one regret both my wife and I have. Sex is endorphins, and it can be a completely false signal of the 'rightness' of your prospective mate. Good lesson here...completely ignore the 3rd date rule and be up front about what you're looking for. Most of them will self-eliminate from your prospect pool.
The hardest part is getting out there and meeting people after you've been burned some. It hurts, but it's worth it. Most good things are like that.
Now, don't go thinking that we had this success early. My wife and I were in our 30's when we got married. I had several strike outs before this.
PsihoKekec
Swashbuckling Vatnik
mrttao
Well-known member
thanks.
wait. you married in your 30s, and been married for 20 years. you are in your 50s now?
almost. I'm being lose with time a bit so it's harder for people to figure out who me and mine are.
Let's just say i'm comfortably paranoid about bad actors.