You aren't a paleo-con, but you are someone who needs to understand the visceral reaction LGB folks will have to people who want to roll back same-sex marriages.
And you need to understand there are plenty of straight folks in the center who will not vote for a R that tries to roll back same-sex marriages, because they see it as infringing on the rights of their friends.
We are a secular country, with secular laws, and there is a reason no holy book of any group or religion can be allowed to dictate government policy. Marriage in the US is a government institution, whether you like it or not, and that is the reality LGB folks have to operate in for insurance, taxes, medical power of attorney, and all the little things tied to marriage.
I want to be clear, I respect religious freedom, and think nuns shouldn't have to pay for condoms or birth control. Planned Parenthood is an abomination created by a eugenicist, and I am very pro-Life. The cake baker in the Master Piece Cakeshop case should never have been targeted; he was willing to sell the gay couple a pre-made cake, but not cater the wedding.
However, I am also bi, and know damn well what it means for people like me if Obergefell is reversed. Because the 'reversal' won't have started, or ended, there.
This is why I want the Right to stop fighting or even really debating this issue, because it is undoing a LOT of the progress Trump made, and not just with LGBs alone. There is common ground we can work on, if you all can just leave this topic alone in mixed company and not actively seek it politically.