Children..?

[Husky_Khan]

Another serious poll.

So... y'all going be fruitful and multiply... or have you already? Please discuss this big, profound, life changing questions in a Pub style setting, as your ancestors and previous generations have done in countless eons past.

 

[tirrene]

I'm not comfortable answering this poll; it lacks... legal context.

 

[Shipmaster Sane]

A healthy person should want to have children. Maybe they physically cant, or feel they cant support them, or don't have someone to raise children with, but you should want to have children.

 

[ShieldWife]

I already have children and I plan to have more. Western civilization depends on its members having children in order to survive. Also, one of the best ways that conservatives can influence society is by raising and influencing their own children. Having children is a kind of pro-life activism, not merely opposing abortion but by bringing new life into the world.

 

[LordSunhawk]

I am medically incapable of having children due to a genetic condition (short version, I'm totally infertile) so the question is moot for me.

 

[Shipmaster Sane]

I am medically incapable of having children due to a genetic condition (short version, I'm totally infertile) so the question is moot for me.

Well, you could adopt one day, perhaps.

 

[prinCZess]

Children I look forward to. I've got a laundry list on both how not to raise a kid and how to do so--certain I and a partner would make our own mistakes, but I'd look forward to them being fresh, new ones at least. Always enjoyed dealing with kids and showing them how to do something or behave.

Babies, on the other hand...Babies, as far as I can tell, are horrendous hell-creatures on missions from Satan to make lives miserable and encourage thoughts of murder.
Probably going to have to square that circle someday--though I've entertained adoption that could cut out a varying degree of the 'baby' stage. Since the ovens still on preheat...Got time to come to terms one way or another.

I am medically incapable of having children due to a genetic condition (short version, I'm totally infertile) so the question is moot for me.

As said, adoption is an option--difficult as it is to jump through all the required hoops it's one the US could use more people participating in.

 

[Lanmandragon]

I've got here a boy and two girls. Children and family are what life's all about.

 

[Lanmandragon]

*three not here I really hate the sites autocorrect.

 

[Deleted member]

We intend to adopt, my spouse also having been adopted. Only girls though, I don't think it's appropriate for boys to be raised without a father figure in their life.

 

[Lanmandragon]

We intend to adopt, my spouse also having been adopted. Only girls though, I don't think it's appropriate for boys to be raised without a father figure in their life.

That's a surprisingly wise decsion. I applaud you mam.

 

[Lanmandragon]

We intend to adopt, my spouse also having been adopted. Only girls though, I don't think it's appropriate for boys to be raised without a father figure in their life.

You should make sure the girls have positive male role models though. As if they are straight how the men in your life treat them. Will determine the kind of men they pursue later in life.

 

[Deleted member]

You should make sure the girls have positive male role models though. As if they are straight how the men in your life treat them. Will determine the kind of men they pursue later in life.

I understand. I was fortunate to have a very loving and kind relationship with my father which never really had any problems except for a melodramatic year and a half around when I came out. He was the most perfect gentleman and I think it's very important to raise girls not to be afraid of men, it's quite likely to just make them neurotic. Fortunately my sister and her husband lives in the area and we're all very close.

 

[Lanmandragon]

I understand. I was fortunate to have a very loving and kind relationship with my father which never really had any problems except for a melodramatic year and a half around when I came out. He was the most perfect gentleman and I think it's very important to raise girls not to be afraid of men, it's quite likely to just make them neurotic. Fortunately my sister and her husband lives in the area and we're all very close.

Yeah uncles are great. My father passed when I was five but his brother's and my mom's. Showed me how to be a man and my sisters what men should be. Folks often dismiss how important positive masculinity is. Good luck to you and yours.

 

[Deleted member]

We need more awesome uncles in the world, indeed.

 

[Lanmandragon]

Well, you could adopt one day, perhaps.

I've considered adoption before. The issue I have is I don't think I'd be capable of loving them. To the same extent as my own and that's just not fair to the child.

 

[Quickdraw101]

I want to have a child at some point. Aside from the fact I want my bloodline to continue, I also want to grant my mother's wish of being a grandmother. Whether I have a son, daughter, or both, I want to raise them with strong morals, the skills needed for a changing world, and a chance to raise a child better than I was raised. My father was a deadbeat skinhead who never gave a damn about me, which left my grandfather to step up to the plate. I want a chance to raise a child in the same way my grandfather did to me.

 

[LordSunhawk]

Unfortunately, while I myself am adopted and I have great respect for it, it is not something I've ever considered.

A - I'm unmarried and highly unlikely, given my nature, that that will change. Considering that I'm a middle aged virgin who has given serious thought to becoming a monk at times, well *shrugs* it wouldn't be fair to any woman in my life.

B - I am not convinced that I could ever be a good father. Since I am quite sure that I would be a terrible husband, I do not wish to saddle any child with me as a father. I know myself, and I continue to pursue my personal goal of never deliberately causing any other person harm.

 

[Planchar]

I have a 6 month old daughter. Sleep is no longer a word that is in my vocabulary. Having said that, I wouldn’t trade her for the world.

 

[ShadowsOfParadox]

I am precisely JUUUST Autisitic enough that sometimes even people close to me forget that I am, in fact, Autistic, and thus have... issues, with things other people find incredibly intuitive. I really don't think that's healthy for a kid.

...I don't really like the way I put that first sentence...

I am severely Autistic, sufficiently so that when I was diagnosed at 14 my Mom was told it was a miracle I could speak English. With a lot of work I can maintain an appearance of normality sufficient that even those very close to me, who have helped with the struggle toward functionality, sometimes forget the particulars of my, "eccentricities".