Argent
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I even notice it, in-regards to ASOIAF fics with Jon Snow
Catelyn Stark was cold to him, but wasn't abusive
Oh that is another pet peeve of mine.
All the fics that make Cat out to be a villain because she didn't want to raise her husband's bastard and treat him like her own child. While Cat does stupid things throughout the books and has the political sense of a drunk goat in this one area she was not exactly wrong.
First this is a medieval society. This mean there are certain rules and bringing your basdard home was a slight against your wife, her family and the alliance that marriage represents. Ned could have raised Jon elsewhere with a loyal Lord like Reed and avoided a lot of family drama and trouble. But rasing your bastard in your own castle and having them take classes with your true born heir was just not done.
Next she lives in a world where bastards have tried to take the true heirs inheritance. Even the Starks had a cadet line rebel against them. Westeros have fought multiple civil wars over who has the right to inherit from treating bastards like truebrone heirs. So as far as Cat is concerned Jon should be raised far away and taught not to get ideas.
Then you get into the more personal reasons. Here you have Cat that has to live with a reminder that she was never Neds first choice. Jon is a remind that ever dutiful Ned Strak married her for some armies and a dead brother. Not out of any choice. Which while expected for political marriages most Lords do not shove their indiscretions into their wives face ever day.
The fact that she was only cold to Jon and generally let him is more then Jon could expect. Just picture some other Nobel wives and think how long till Jon had an accident.