The thing that make Christians more civilized than other religions is how they create a guilt culture. Everywhere else you have shame culture or worse fear culture.
Unfortunately, teenagers are at the specific stage of life where a human beings capacity for long term risk management is still developing. They are literally only capable of performing short term risk assessment subconsciously.
A child star that didn't get into some sort of sexual situation at Hollywood parties is an exception rather than the rule. A part of Me-Too is that they believe that the whole world live just like they do.
Something similar happened with Cobra Kai, it started as a monument to masculinity and then in the second season it basically reversed course, and turned every form of personal growth that had occurred into a downfall.
if those PMs are legit, the reason she always accuses other people of being abusers is because she is an abuser and expects other people to act just like her.