The internet doesn't forget, OP. That's the tradeoff you accepted, knowingly or not, when you started doing OnlyFans. You get tons of recogntion, men lusting after you, and decent money, too. But you also get the social ostracization that sex workers usually do, and all the limits that entails. You're an articulate young woman, OP. Some part of you must have known that when you chose this career path.
I'm partial to you getting off social media, moving and starting up fresh. But what you've done is never going to go away. With 100K followers on Twitter and god knows how many subscribers on OF, your face and body are on the web forever, and with image search engines becoming better and better each passing day, you'll be found, again and again, in the days to come.
I'm not saying any of this to be/sound malicious, OP. But choices have consequences, and your dating experiences as well as the majority of answers by men in this thread are representative of how the majority of men see sex work as an insurmountable obstacle to serious relationships. Naturally I don't know how hardcore your content is, if it's just you doing images and solo vids, or if it's also intercourse with a/several partners (because boy does that open up another can of worms w/regards to your pair bonding ability...), though the used goods comment surely points into that direction. But that stuff is what the overwhelming majority of prospective partners will as something intimate in the very sense that it's something only to be shared between the two persons making up the relationship - and not 100K fapping dudes on Twitter. By putting it out for the whole world to see you devalue that intimacy, and in turn since it's nothing special anymore nobody wants to put any effort into it.
I'm feeling reminded of that meme/screencap where another OF creator's date gets cancelled and she asks something along the lines of "You're not going on a date with me because of my OF" and he responds with "No, I'm not treating you to a $200 date when I can see you naked instantly for $5.99".
This is where you're at, OP. You've made your intimacy/sexuality a commodity, so people have chosen to treat it just like that.
Ask your self this very straightforward question: why would a high-value man want to date you?
Nobody wants to bring a girl home to family and get the awkward conversation "And what do you do, honey?" - "I sell pictures of my butthole on the internet." Nobody wants to bring a girl home and constantly lie about her to their family either.
If he's got a business, do you think he'll want to have you around with prospective business partners who can find you on the web in a matter of seconds? Even in liberal states business relations are more often than not socially conservative. You think he'll want to risk his prospects because you (used to) sell your body online?
Or if you want a family: leaving aside the pair bonding issue, how many families do you think would be just a-okay with their son/brother dating a sex worker? How many men would be willing to break with their families just to be with you? And then thinking about kids, how many men would want to put kids into this world with you, knowing the absolute hell those kids would go through later in school? Kids are assholes, and they'd bully the living crap out of your offspring when (not if) they found out what you did earlier in your life. What prospective life partner would want to put their kids through that, because of you? Even if they loved you, initially, chances are high they'd drop you once things get serious.
Again, I'm not trying to be mean, but these things are, you know, kinda obvious to most men seeking serious relationships. Which is why you're not taken into consideration. Again, which sucks since you sound like an introspective and nice enough person, and you deserve to be as happy as the rest of us. But you can't have your cake and eat it to.
This sentence here: "Sure I'm sexually open and like to show off my body but I also want commitment." That's your dilemma. Because just like this you've cut something like 90% out of your dating pool. And I'm not sure you're going to like the remaining 10%...
